Why being a Godly Wife Means more than you Think

Why being a Godly Wife Means more than you Think

January 24, 2017 Faith Marriage 5

I’ve got to be honest, I always thought the term ‘help meet’ was stupid, as in:

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18 KJV)

I mean, what kind of phrase is ‘help meet’ anyways?

The word is often translated as helper or companion in other versions of the Bible, and while those words don’t sound quite so weird, they are still a bit dull. Perhaps it makes sense, but is that really all God created a wife for?


The beginning of understanding

Several years ago a man prayed over my husband and I when we were preaching at a friends church. He said he saw me like Xena Warrior Princess (umm…yeah, that’s what he said). He had a picture of my husband on his knees praying. He saw an angel with him, but he saw me out the front all warrior like, kicking bad guys butts to protect him. And while I wasn’t much into the Xena analogy, when he said that, I thought, ‘Yeah, I do!’

As a wife, I know the potential that God has placed in my husband. I see the dreams and abilities he carries, but I also know when he’s struggling. When the enemy gets in the way, I have the power to do something about it (and I’m not talking about nagging). It’s been at these times when, yes, I’ve been a little Xena like. I get on my knees and I do battle because I’m not letting anyone mess with my man.


How it fits

[pullquote]I get on my knees and I do battle because I’m not letting anyone mess with my man.[/pullquote]

But I had a dilemma. Even though that man’s picture of my husband and I stirred me, I didn’t know where it fit in the Bible. I knew God wanted me to be strong and I knew he wanted us to have a great marriage, but I couldn’t recall reading anything in the Bible about warrior princess like skills in a marriage.

It wasn’t too long after that, however, a good friend began sharing with me what she had found in her study of the word ‘help meet’ – that’s when everything clicked.

You see, the word for help meet is used many, many times in the Old Testament. And it’s most often used to describe God.

But I am afflicted and needy; hasten to me, O God! You are my help and my deliverer; O Lord, do not delay. (Psalm 70:5 NASB95)


I will lift up my eyes to the mountains; from where shall my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. (Psalm 121:1-2 NASB95)

The word ‘help’ in those two verses (and there are a lot more) is that same word ‘help meet’. So, being a help meet is about more than just being a companion or helper. Being a help meet to your husband is about protecting him from the enemy. You are his defender, and who better than his wife who knows him intimately. You know his flaws and his struggles, but you can also see the amazing potential that God has placed within him. You can stand up for him and believe in him.

This revelation gave me permission to keep doing what I was doing…but with a greater purpose. I now have more boldness and expectation in praying for my husband and believing for the power of God over his life.

[bctt tweet=”Wife, you are your husbands cup bearer. Don’t let the devil get to him.” username=”ShawnaColeing”]



It’s interesting to note that when the devil tempted Eve to eat the fruit, Adam was there. Why did the devil ask Eve instead of Adam? After all, it was Adam he was after. Was it because God’s order for a husband and wife is that the enemy had to go through her to get to him?

Wife, you are your husbands cup bearer. Don’t let the devil get to him. Allow God to use you to protect and help him become everything he was created to be. Because no one can fight for him like you can.


5 Responses

  1. Joyce Lee says:

    Hmmm, it appears that my Father is speaking to me through my daughter. Thank you, Shawna, well done!

    • Shawna says:

      Hah! My mom is my biggest fan 😉

      • Joyce Lee says:

        this from Joni Peck…That is so true! Reminds me of the movie War Room! Thanks for sharing! We know what our purpose is for sure. Never thought of the truth about S. had to go through Eve to get to Adam. Great insight from Shawna! Joni

  2. Marlene says:

    Great stuff Shawna! We need more Warrior Women to uphold their men, especially those in Ministry.

  3. Germaine Lee says:

    So, so true Shawna. Keep being a warrior.

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